A dear friend gave me my Forget Me Not when I had serious back surgery, in 2011. it kept me company all through the recovery and rehab. It was great comfort and company. It made me feel like my friend was always there holding my hand. I still have her beside my bed and she is still very special. She has been so important to me, I just bought another Forget Me Not for another special friend who just broke her hip.
I received Remembrance today. This angel was a gift from a friend of mine named Autumn. She sent it to me because I have just lost my husband Doug to cancer. Doug was 49 years old and we were married 23 years. Doug and I grew up in the same neighborhood. He was my brother's best friend and my father was his cub scout master, so Doug was in and out of our house a lot. My mother and father liked Doug and would always comment and say "Douglas is such a nice polite boy!" Doug and my brother were four years younger than I was and always doing something with lizards, frogs or fish. Being a girl and four years older than them, these things definitely did not appeal to me! As years went by, Doug remained a close friend and when my brother Gary found the right girl, he asked Doug to be in his wedding. I was of course in the wedding party as well. My brother Gary married a girl named Mary, who my mother and I had met with her mother when we were all taking Jazzercize! Mary was really nice and not dating anyone so we introduced her to my brother and they were a perfect match! Anyway, their wedding was beautiful and it was at this time that everyone would comment and say what a nice couple Doug and I would make! We had dated other people through the years and nothing serious had ever developed. One night I was out with some of my girlfriends who felt I needed a girls night out, this was after a particularly disappointing relationship had ended, with another guy who turned out to be not the one for me. I ran into Doug in a parking lot going into the same restaurant/dance club that we were going into. When my friends saw him they all wanted to know 'who is that?" I just answered "he is my brother's little friend," to which my best friend Anna answered "Susan, he don't look so little to me and he's cute!" I laughed, because Doug was six foot 2 inches tall and yes he was very handsome...to me he was always just my brother's little friend! So for the first time I started looking at Doug differently. He surprisingly hung around us that night and talked with me and even asked me to dance, and at the end of the evening walked me out to my car and said to me "your brother is going to kill me, but I want to ask you out". I laughed and said "yep, he is and we are going to shock our families". Funny though... nobody was shocked and everyone laughed and said "well..you guys...have...known each other for years!". My mother said "See you were worried you might not ever find the right one for you...when all you had to do was look right in your own backyard!" Doug passed away August 4, 2014 from cancer. He never smoked or drank, neither one of us did. He fought a tough battle with head/neck cancer and even made the decision to have his right jaw and lymph nodes removed. He did this to buy him more time with his children. Unfortunately the cancer returned. A full body scan showed that the cancer had spread to his lungs and bones. He said enough. And he was gone quickly. We have two wonderful children. Our son Matt is starting his senior year of high school and our daughter Rebecca is starting her second year of college. It is going to be rough but we will be okay, we have a lot of family support, and now this little angel will help us to keep his memories alive in our hearts. Thank you Autumn for sending me such a perfect gift, it is beautiful!
It's inpiring for Susan to hear how you feel about your Willow Tree piece. Your personal interpretation is so meaningful... thank you for taking the time to share it.